Wednesday, August 20, 2008

"Slacker Mom"

I just got done reading Taffy's latest post and as I was commenting I realized that it was turning into it's own post, so I thought rather than fill up Taffy's comment page, I would just write my own post on the subject!!



I have to say that it's such a relief to know that I'm not the only slacker mom around. Ofentimes I look around at all of the other moms and wonder how come they always seem to have all of their ducks in a row--how come their houses are always clean, their kids never have sticky faces, their kids' clothes are always clean and in good condition, their kids' hair is never snarly and always fixed really cute and a big one I always wondered last year as I drove Mylee to preschool 2 days a week is HOW IN THE WORLD CAN A MOM LOOK SO CUTE THAT EARLY IN THE MORNING WHEN THERE'S SO MUCH WORK TO BE DONE?!! So I thought I would share a few of my own thoughts on ways that I am a slacker (and these are in no particular order).



1-Every once in a while I will allow my kids to have chips or a popsicle for breakfast. It's not every day, in fact it's very seldom, but every single day (without fail) my kids will ask if they can have chips or a popsicle or some sort of treat for breakfast!! Some days I am just too tired to explain to them why those aren't a good thing for our bodies to have first thing in the morning and so I will just go with it!!



2-I have turned the 5-second rule into the 2-day rule. This may seem kinda gross, but if Mireya comes across a cracker that she dropped a couple days before and wants to eat it, then I say go for it. Now if I notice that it has a hair or it has been stepped on or that it has been contaminated in some sort of major way, then I will of course take it away from her, but she hasn't been harmed from it yet. Besides, there are two major benefits from this--it makes my vacuuming job that much easier AND it will keep her from begging for another snack for at least a few minutes!!



3-I remember when I first had Mylee and I thought," I am always going to have her dressed in her cutest outfits and her hair is always going to be done and completed with a bow." I have a confession--my kids have looked like rugrats a lot this summer. Oftentimes I have gotten to Montpelier or Evanston to do a little shopping and as I load my kids in the cart, realize just how messy they look. Now, usually when we go out of town, I try to put them in clothes other than their stained play clothes and I try to do their hair and wash their faces good before we leave, but sometimes we have spur-of-the-moment trips, and that's where the problem arises. And it's not until we get there that I realize I haven't even combed their hair that day or that I missed wiping their mouths after their last meal.

4-I have days where I just don't want to clean my house anymore. It feels like all I do all day every day is clean the house. I'm constantly doing dishes, picking up toys, wiping up spills, doing laundry--some days I need a day off. On those days my whole living room, kitchen and hall get filled up with toys (I even let them take all of the pillows off the couch and they jump off the couch into the floor of pillows), the dishes only make it as far as the sink, and all of my floors are left with their crumbs and sticky spots for the day. Even moms & housekeepers need a day off, right? What I've learned is that if I ever want to have company, I just have to have a day like that. If I work hard to keep my house clean, I can guarantee no unexpected visitors, but as soon as I have a "day off" I will undoubtedly have someone just drop by out of the blue. It works that way every time without fail. In fact, last month I was having one of those days and my visiting teachers stopped by to see me!!

5-There are days that my older kids never get out of their pajamas. I have a hard time admitting to that one, but it is true nonetheless. It doesn't happen very often, but there are days when we aren't going anywhere and I am just cleaning the house or working on a project and the kids are getting along so well that I just can't get myself to interrupt them just to get their clothes on. I have days where I don't feel like getting all dolled up, so I figure they probably have days like that too, so why force the issue? They can play and play to their hearts' content and then it makes one less step to do when it's bedtime--they're already in their pj's.

6-My last one may have a little more to do with me than my kids, but how do other moms look so cute all of the time? Last year as I drove Mylee to preschool, I was almost always the only one that was still in my pj's or my work clothes. How can someone possibly have their house clean and all of their little jobs done, plus be showered and ready for the day by 9:00 a.m.? I thought that over so many times throughout the school year. I even set little goals for myself so that I didn't feel so silly in the mornings. I started making sure that even if I wasn't done with my chores, I was showered by the time I took her. I even made a goal that I would actually be all dressed and ready for the day with my hair done and everything. That was too much pressure--it only lasted a couple of weeks. I have come to the conclusion that either they never cleaned their houses, they cleaned them at a time other than the morning, they didn't get dirty and sweaty from cleaning their houses, or that they woke up at 4:00 a.m. to get everything done before 9:00. Thankfully, this year the bus picks Mylee up so that I don't have to stress about it!!:)


These aren't all of my slacker traits, but if I let you in on all of them, I wouldn't be upholding my image very well, would I? Does anyone else have any confessions of ways they are slacker moms? Please share to make me feel better about my slackings!!:)

10 comments:

Ashlie said...

I would never do such things. I have no idea what your going through. ;)

Bobbi said...

I laughed the whole time reading this--I could have written it all by myself! You say that your pj days and other things are only once in a while! I would say mine are weekly! I have no idea how you do it with three little ones! I find if I ever want to just hang out with my girls than my whole house suffers. I always wonder--how is it possible that it takes me ALL day to clean, do the dishes, get everyone dressed, and fed, do the dishes again, laundry, vacuum, and in a half hour whirl of play it looks just the same as when I started!! I better stop or I could just blog my own on the subject too! But I know you are a great mom with such cute girls! And I have yet to ever see you without your hair done and looking great!

Shari Davis said...

Oh Katie!!!! You're too cute! I think every mom feels the way that you do and has those slacker moments. Me especially!!!!! I seriously am way worse than anyone, no doubt. It doesn't make us bad moms, just real people. But I have to say, everytime I've seen you, you AND your girls ALWAYS look so cute!!!!!!

Tina said...

That was so funny! You're hilarious! And I'm with Shari, You and your kids ALWAYS look picture perfect!

Violet Rose said...

Katie, i'm with Tina and Shari...I've never seen you without your hair done and the cutest clothes on you and your girls. Except for maybe a time or two on bus trips or whatever but those we won't mention...haha. I'm confident you're doing a good job with your girls weather you look perfect or not, it doesn't really matter.

Lisa said...

KT you have inspired me...I'm going to post my own Slacker Mom blog to continue this fun new trend. I will try not to steal all of your's, but one or 2 might slip in there...or all of them, since I'm exactly the same! LOVE YOU!

The Websters said...

Geez, why don't you get it together!!! Kidding :) Hope your first day of school is good and I know that you will have it all together just like you seem to everyday.

Rachel said...

If it's any consolation, I think you always look cute!! And I your house is always way cleaner than mine. I think some of these traits have something to do with having a third kid. I noticed a couple of these traits (because I would never have more than that, right?) after Seryn was born. I have been so lazy!! Well, at least I feel that way. They do say that if you can make it through the third kid, you may as well have ten! (I think I'm stopping at three!)

Jason and Amanda said...

Hey Katie!
Your girls are so cute! I think it is ok to be a slacker mom becuase when your kids grow up they aren't going to remember how clean the house was or how cute you look every morning, they will remember all the fun you had with them.

Lori Conger, said...

Okay, so I had to look twice to make sure I hadn't left that post, but hten I realized that my list is much longer! Actually, I couldn't help but think as I read each of your "slacker" traits, that those are the things that are making you such a good mother. The biggest improvement I've made as a mother over the years is probably that I've let go of a lot of things that don't matter, let myself off of the hook, and just learned to enjoy my children a little more. We're all a lot happier (even my husband).